There is no doubt about it – Grief is a debilitating emotion. Yet, what many do not understand is that grieving is a journey. A journey that we all have to take at some time in our lives. There are so many aspects to grief and grieving that one can’t really begin to label them. It would be wrong to do so. There is no recipe, and no real steps that come one after the other. You do not come through the steps and become enlightened or healed. You cannot heal from grief. This journey is one that will help you to understand grief and grieving. It will help you to surrender and become non-attached to the grief that holds you prisoner.
The Otherside of Grieving
The touch of the spirit world can never be forgotten once experienced. Nevertheless, there comes a time when an individual will feel that once again they have been abandoned. Why? Because one experience received is not recurrent and so the elation is short-lived. As a consequence, one begins to feel abandoned once more. The grieving individual lives under a veil of expectation. They expect; that once communication or a sign happens from a loved one on the other side. It will be a continuing build up or the norm of every day. However, this is quite dangerous in terms of what you expect. It is not reality, and you will stunt your spiritual growth. In the uncomfort of your grief, you can find your greatest power of divinity within. Loss can become your greatest teacher.
Experiences After Death
When we lose a loved one, very often you will experience some form of connection from the other side. There are abundant stories of how loved ones have reached out with unusual signs and signals they are around. For instance; one person may experience the unusual appearance of a butterfly or perhaps some other sign from the animal kingdom. Another individual may feel the touch of their loved ones from the other side in some unusual way. There have been examples of communication from a spirit using some form of electronic control of a device.
On one occasion, during a sitting, a mother was told her daughter would connect with her through the phone. She did. However, no matter how those experiences manifest, they are felt deeply at every conceivable level. All that can change very quickly, and when no other experience is forthcoming, one can feel abandoned. We have such a yearning to hold onto those experiences. It is rather like someone feeling the need to binge-eat or drink. That feeling of euphoria wants and needs to be constant. Even visiting a medium can be temporary elation. Why? Because, you feel such a feeling of comfort knowing that your loved ones are around you, and the evidence has proven this. However, it is temporary elation. Your expectation is that it will continue and when it does not, you feel abandoned yet again.
Word of warning
Any medium that purports to be able to heal you from your grief by providing evidence; Run and do not look back. They do not understand grief, nor its journey, or its role in divine law.
Have I been abandoned?
The answer is a resounding NO! Of course, that is often unbelievable to the individual who Is grieving and suffering, and who is going through loss. Unless you continue to feel the comfort you experienced in the first realization of death. You will come to the conclusion that you have been abandoned.
What Happened?
So what has happened, Why do you feel such distance from your loved ones? There could be a few reasons for this. However, the underlying truth is that you are not abandoned. Your loved ones in spirit are always trying to let you know of their presence and influence in your life. Let’s look at some possible explanations as to why you may feel the way you do, and what could also be happening on the spirit side of life.
You have been given proof and recognized it.
Oftentimes, when someone passes over to the other side, they may have some prior spiritual awareness. They will be acutely aware of the loss that you are feeling. Your loved ones will be compelled to reach out in some way, and let you know they are alive and well and are still a part of your life. This can come in many ways. It could be signs of spirit from animal interaction, musical awareness, signs such as synchronicity, events, smells and so much more.
When you have that recognition that it was your loved one, it is almost like a sigh of relief for the spirit who has gone home. They are no longer feeling that pull which has made you so needy to feel them. They feel that they have proven their existence and so will now move to that next stage of learning. This does not mean they have left you. It just means they have moved onto the next phase of life and are no longer shackled to earthly existence. They learn to feel you and commune with you on a different level, on a higher and clearer vibration. They learn the language of the soul.
Spirit is moving on and developing, that does not mean you are abandoned.
When your spirit loved ones move on, they do not leave you. They have a higher spiritual awareness and, therefore, are pulled to continue their development. As a consequence of this, your loved ones are called to service. Experiencing a compelling need to serve in some capacity, they will move forward.
In a trance communication noted in “30 Years among the dead”, Spirit clearly made it known they were serving in some way.
“I wish you could see how Uncle F. works in the dark earth sphere to help and to serve the unfortunate ones there, to prevent them from obsessing anyone. He is so anxious to have everybody know the real truth on the other side, and it is a pity that so much dogma and creed are the stumbling blocks. The little time I have been gone, I have learned so much.”
Many are called to service or are compelled to serve and to learn. Therefore, their vibrations change. As love is held upon that vibration, they are always connected to you through bonds of love. Those bonds will never be broken and the thought that is omitted is also that call on that vibration of love. When you think of your loved ones with love and not desperation or questioning or need. You immediately raise that vibration, and they know. They will then connect with you, albeit in a subtle way, but in a most profound way.
Your grief is deep, and you fail to recognize the signs of spirit
You are grieving; but you are so deep in your grief that you fail to realize or recognize the signs that your loved ones are all around you. Imagine, if you will, an impenetrable fog that you can’t see through. This is the epitome of your grief and your grieving. You can’t see the beauty of the spirit world because of that fog of grief. Your loved ones may be visiting you in your dream state. However, they can’t penetrate because of the heavy burden’s of your grief. They will send you signs in your everyday life, and because of your state of emotion, your vibration is omitting a foggy shield that is like your ego protecting you in the materialistic world, but failing to open your spiritual eyes.
In your grief, you fail to see the blessings that your loved ones now experience. Because in your own selfishness, you are consumed with your loss of how it is effecting you. This is not negative, it is just a part of the learning and grieving process. You should not feel bad about it, because the time will come when that will change. Then you will no longer be in that selfishness, you will become more selfless.
Your Religious Beliefs and Dogma Have Blocked You
Oftentimes, we are told what is right to believe and what is wrong. Perception is no longer a personal point of view. Furthermore, it can be forced perception when ideology and dogma get out of balance. Some religious practices will purport that communication with spirits is evil and is wrong and against the faith. This is entirely wrong, and if you study your history correctly, you will realize that it was very normal to communicate with the other side. In fact, it was a necessary way to commune and develop oneself with those on the other side of life. In reality, religions deliberately do this in order to control you and to force you into their own beliefs and modus operandi.
Nevertheless, when your religion or your circumstances, including your learned environments, have a tunneled vision of life. Then it is often quite impossible for you to experience any form of communication from your loved ones on the other side. Did you know that all they want is to show you they still live, and are unhindered from the shackles that earthly life confined them to? If you could see how happy they are; if you could awaken to the loving messages they continually send you, then you would know that life continues and that you are not hindered by man’s weak perceptions that often do more damage than good. You can then move toward experiencing your grief and learn what you need to learn quickly. You can develop your own soul to release you from the lie of material perception.
No Understanding Of The Afterlife
If you follow a particular religion that places no emphasis on the afterlife. Then you risk causing more suffering to yourself and others around you. It is quite clear that some religions, such as Buddhism, Baha’i Faith, Bon, Atheism (sort of religious belief) Confucianism, do not place much emphasis on the afterlife. Therefore, when someone experiences that loss, if the loss has a crippling effect, they are excluded from moving through the grief process in a way that could help them suffer less. When their loved ones try and communicate with them in the subtle ways of the soul. It is often unnoticed, and, as a consequence, unnecessary suffering continues.
An individual suffering from grief may, of course, not follow any particular faith and still have an unyielding fear of life hereafter. Fear is normally an ingrained belief from family members of the past or through educational misunderstandings and perceptions. This person also suffers just as much as the individual who follows a particular faith. They fail to see what the heart yearns for
Opening Of Your Spiritual Eyes
As a consequence, when that fog lifts, you begin to see the new land, like Columbus finally seeing the new world, and you begin to look at things differently. You begin to notice that spirit is around you and never far from you. When you speak to them, they hear you, they feel you. This is the reality of who you are. You are a divine being, you are spirit in human form and not human in spirit form. The journey through grief is your greatest teacher.
God Bless You All,
Jock
